You know the feeling.
The one where someone has made you flat out angry and all you want to do is call them or send the meanest email you could possibly write?
We’ve all done this a time or two, but at the end of the day it’s probably not the best way to handle things.
The I’m Angry and You’re an Idiot Email
Play this out with me.
Lets pretend you just wrote an email and told Jake how stupid he is and ripped him a new one.
Do you actually feel better? Maybe for a shimmer of a second, but you likely won’t feel long-term satisfaction. Why? Because you probably still have to work with Jake in some capacity and based on your loving email he’s probably not your biggest fan, which means he’s not going to be on Team You.
Here’s a sample email.
“Jake, you’ve really pissed me off. Why is it that you have to be such an idiot and can’t deliver on your promises? I expect you to deliver tomorrow and if you don’t there’s going to be hell to pay. Stop screwing around and just do your job like a competent person would.”
There’s a better way to do this.
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